I finally had a quiet moment to sit down and catch up on The Age, Sunday Life magazine (a weekly ritual for me). Life Matters, was written by Kathy Lette last weekend. I’ll admit to having been a fan of Lette, many moons ago. This morning however, I found myself irritated by her crass, ill-informed perspective on relationships.
Relationship Myth No. 1 – “We just need to learn to communicate better” - Improving communication or more specifically learning how to resolve conflict is perhaps one of the biggest myths about creating a successful relationship. While often touted as the cure-all for troubled relationships, conflict resolution does not open the pathway to enduring love or a happy marriage.
Should we encourage others to “always look on the bright side of life” when they are struggling? New research suggests perhaps not.
All things have a beginning, a middle and an end. Yet in life when we begin to blame others, we get caught in the midst of feeling anger, sorrow or loneliness and a fear that it may never end. To own the blame and instead be with the feelings, the possibility of loving-kindness and compassion for self and other may emerge.