Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) has provided a map to guide us in creating healing and loving relationships. EFT is an approach to couples counselling that works.
EFT is a non-blaming approach to overcoming distress in couple relationships. It validates each partner’s perspective. In understanding each other’s emotional signals, needs and fears, EFT helps couples create secure, loving bonds.
The way to enhance or save a relationship is to be open, attuned, and responsive to each other and to re-establish emotional connection. (Dr Sue Johnson)
EFT is structured approach to couples therapy that is usually short term (8-20 sessions). By helping you go deeper into understanding yourself, your partner and the dynamics of your relationship, you can find lasting solutions, to ensure your relationship is strong, no matter what life brings your way now or in the future.
Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, making grand romantic gestures, or experimenting with new sexual positions. Instead, recognize and admit that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing, and protection. EFT focuses on creating and strengthening this emotional bond by identifying and transforming the key moments that foster an adult loving relationship. (Dr Sue Johnson)
As you begin to understand and respond to each other’s emotions, the relationship dance begins to change. The struggles and conflict get left on the “dance floor” as you move into greater closeness and harmony.
Research indicates up to 90% of couples that undertake a course of EFT report significant improvement in their relationship and up to 75% of couples recover from relationship distress. Changes in the relationship have been shown to last, even in couples facing significant life stressors.
Through the secure attachment relationship that develops, EFT helps each individual in the couple relationship navigate the challenges and transitions of life. People that are more securely attached have a greater ability to cope and manage stress, and better physical and mental health.
Therapist complete accredited training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy with a trainer accredited by the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (www.iceeft.com). Therapists can then become members or accredited therapists with ICEEFT and the Australian Centre for Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (www.aceft.com.au).
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