Couples are faced with many challenges and transitions throughout the course of their relationship. While it would be nice to have a crystal ball, there is no specific way of determining whether or not your relationship will last.
Our journey to understanding the underlying needs in couple relationships started with psychiatrist John Bowlby (1907-1990). He was a Freudian thinker, believing mental health or the lack of it, is derived in early childhood.
In Western cultures, dependency is a dirty word. In our world, healthy adulthood has been defined by emotional independence and self-sufficiency. In essence our culture encourages us to draw an emotional moat around ourselves.
When we look back across the landscape of our life - that began in our childhood craddles and leads us to where we are today, we realise that life evolves through a series of phases.
It was mental health week last week. Around Melbourne (and I’m sure further afield too) events to raise awareness were hosted by numerous organisations.
The 19th century German poet, philosopher and student of human culture Karl Wilhelm Friedrich Schlegel said, ‘Every art should become science, and every science should become art.
We fight with those we care about the most because those are the relationships that matter.
As a couples counsellor, it is important for me to keep up to date with the latest research on couple therapy.
Not so long ago my life was really different. I was a senior leader with a global blue chip company. I did interesting work.